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ChrissyV
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 Posted - 02/17/2008 : 09:16:01
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Competition...meaning one person who is in competition with another to gain the first spot.
Throughout the years of being involved in Alanon and somewhat involved with AA (people) I have come to the conclusion that "competition" is a very big part of the whole process. Everyone competes to be on top, or be the best. Trouble is some people mistake the word "competition" and what the meaning is in the rooms of recovery. For the most part people are in "competition" with themselves, but every once in a while there are those who have to try and compete with everyone else. Try to have the last word; try to be the best; try to put the other person down to make themselves look good!
Why is there such human sacrifice? Children compete with one another and learn how to be the better player. They do not learn that you "HAVE" to be first. Why do we as adults seem to think that being first is he best way, or being the loudest is the only way, or just being mean is the only way to go?
I know, I know we are in a "sick" stage of our lives when it comes to that. I'm not so sure that after years and years of being involved in all of this, that that is the answer. I do believe that people know what they are doing and trive on it.
I don't post very often frankly because I don't put myself out there to be harassed, or flamed or put down. I finally closed down A24H because I got fed up with it all. I don't go into chat much anymore, for the same reason. I talk to some people and they tell me what is going on....henceforth I am glad I am not involved in it.
My views, nobody elses, if you don't like what I say, please "COMMENT" do not attack the messenger. IF you can't do that, leave it alone as I am not in "competition" with you.
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Bigmama
New Member
USA
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Posted - 02/17/2008 : 11:42:01
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Well said, Chrissy!!!!! Today the only one I am in competition with is myself, I,like you, have no need or desire to compete with anyone else, be it a person, or a recovery website. Yes we're sick people but far as I can tell we only get better by making ourselves healthier in attitudes and actions. It seems that if I post to what someone says, that's the death knell for that thread---I pray that doesn't happen to this thread, because I firmly believe that what you said needs to be read, and each one who reads it needs to ponder what you've said and take a close look at him or her self.
God bless you honey and please keep posting and dropping into chat now and then. The meetings are getting better and better, so I hope that's a sign that the site will also.
Love you bunches,
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I love you all and there's nothing you can do about it.
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Lin
Junior Member
USA
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Posted - 02/22/2008 : 16:32:52
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I'm a very competitive person. I thinkn it's because I grew up in a home with alcoholic parents. I competed for their affection, their respect, their love. And I rarely received what I was competing for.
So now as an adult I am also very competitive. I like to be in a group that has contests and prizes. I like to win. I like to compare my stats at work with stats of others to see if I am holding my own.
I try to be in competition with myself also. I like to try to do better than last time....whether it be playing Freecell or Bookworm or something else.
When I read your post, Chrissy, it sounded liek somebody had attacked someth8ing you had said. I sure hope not. I think this is a safe place to say what we like without having the people around us attack what we say.
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