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Lin
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Posted - 11/10/2007 :  04:32:25  Show Profile Send Lin a Private Message  Reply with Quote
When I first heard this work I thoguth it meant ignoring. I thought it meant I woudl be uncring. Not so.

To me today detaching is lot allowing myself to get sucked into the chaos of the drinking. It is not allowing the hurtful things to get to me. IT is not taking the lies, broken promises, etc so personaly.

My hubby hides his pint vodka bottles everywhere. ONe of his favorite places is the gutter of the patio outside the bedroom. One day i got in from school. He was not drinking. but I saw a bottle on th patio. I asked him if we had a "gulleywasher" rain today. He said we did. I said.."I figured we did. It washed out a vodka bottle onto th patio." He jsut smiled. I did not go pick up the bottle. I have noticed the dogs are carryig it around and playing wiht it in the back yard. (My first thought was I hoe they dont start drinkig...but I am pretty sure the inherited trais can't pass down to dogs.) They like to carry 0lastic water bottles, too. So this is no surprise.

I did not clean it up. I did not freak out that it was in th gutter to begin with. I know he makes poor choices, and I don't try to change them any more.

How do you detach?

LIN
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